Fuzzy Sage

This week's Seekers may be found here http://www.slate.com/id/2270172/pagenum/all/#p2. The common theme today seems to be fuzz. The first Seeker has a fuzzy image of where her husband's true affections lie, when he could be giving his affections to a fuzzy companion. The second Seeker has a fuzzy-minded daughter, while the third Seeker's friends have a fuzzy understanding of what charity is. The final Seeker is tired of dealing with her husband's fuzzy head.

1. Seeker's husband's new friendship seems overly affectionate to Seeker.

The Sage sees that the simple solution to this problem is to buy your husband a dog. He'll show it just as much affection and still push you out in the cold emotionally, but at least you won't be embarassed for your friends to see him showering affection on the dog.

2. Seeker's adult granddaughters posted pictures of their terminally alcoholic, homeless-by-choice, dying mother on Facebook, which offends Seeker.

The Sage understands this woman's choices have been hard on all of you. They have a different relationship with her, and must deal with their own feelings. Post pictures of your own, showing your daughter progressing from a happy child to a sick drunk, and come to grips with this in your own way, as well. Perhaps they see their own pictures as a warning to their party-going friends.

3. Seeker does charitable work and donates to charities, but is berated by friends on recent purchase of a new car.

The Sage agree with your friends that the money you spent on this vehicle could have gone to help others. So can that of your friends. Each time one of these killjoys picks up a bite of food, purchases a newspaper, or spends any time or money on themselves, remind them of how this choice meant that much time or money not going to their own charities. In order for you to contribute your time and money, you need transportation to earn the money and to contribute the time.

4. Seeker's husband gets a bi-annual buzz haircut, which Seeker despises.

When your husband returns from his next shearing, excuse yourself to have the same done to yourself. If he complains, tell him this is how you feel about his choice of hair style. If he says nothing, he obviously feels your head is your own, and his head is his. Do not heed the advice of lesser Seekers, who would actually have you encourage him to maintain this style.